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Mum hopes book will help to ease pain of suicide

11:40am Wednesday 14th October 2009

By Sarah Hilley
















A mother who lost her son to suicide has written a book to help other families whose loved ones take their own lives. Jan Andersen’s 20-year-old son Kristian took an overdose of heroin and died on November 1, 2002.

Seven years later, her book Chasing Death is about to be published to coincide with the anniversary of Kristian’s death. The book aims to let other mourners know their feelings are normal and they are not alone.

“I started writing the book after Kristian died,” said Jan.

“But I went for months without writing – it was so painful.

“When he died I was determined to do something for other families.

“People think after a certain amount of time you should be over it but a sight, sound or smell can immediately transport you back to the early days of grieving.

“You reach a level of acceptance. You know your child is not coming back but that doesn’t mean you are not grieving.”

The mother-of-four said she has covered topics not dealt with in most suicide survivors’ self-help books, such as handling insensitive comments and having irrational thoughts while grieving.

Jan has researched the impact of suicide on other families and includes different experiences.

She said: “The book puts into words the incommunicable pain that suicide survivors endure.

“In my frenetic search for understanding and support I had difficulty finding any resources that truly connected with my raw grief.

“Most suicide books appear to be remote and academic and focus on suicide rather than relating to the shattered world of those left behind.

“They may talk about stages of grief and recovery, but anyone who has lost a child to suicide will agree that it is a brutal ordeal from which you will never fully recover.”

Jan feels the book would also be helpful for doctors, nurses and mental health professionals.

She also said the book will provide a compelling read for anyone interested in emotional true life stories.

Jan also runs a child suicide website, which provides support for parents worldwide.

“I believe that something positive has to emerge from every tragedy,” she said.

“If the website and the book can help just one family, then it is an achievement – not mine but Kristian’s.

Jan wants to thank nurse Sue Scott who tried to save Kristian’s life and who took care of her the day he died. Sue has contributed to chapter 19 of the book.

The book, is being published by Perfect Publishers.

For more information visit the book’s website www.chasingdeath.com.

Every hard copy of the book sold will see £1 donated to charity Kidscape, which provides anti-bullying advice.

Chasing Death costs £13.99 and will be available from bookshops and Amazon, although sellers reserve the right to amend this price.

Jan’s website can be found at http://www.childsuicide.org 
Press Coverage
A Child After 40, 15 October 2009, by Angel La Liberte:

Founder of the UK site Mothers Over 40, author Jan Andersen became a midlife mom in 1999 at the age of 40. However, before her daughter turned 3, her adult son Kristian committed suicide at age 20. How could a midlife mother cope with the unfathomable emotional collision of one child having just entered her life when another is leaving it, crushed between the forces of birth and bereavement? Her book, Chasing Death: Losing A Child To Suicide is being launched next month. Chasing Death attempts to put candid, but heartrending words to the often incommunicable pain that the surviving families endure, not only through the telling of Kristian’s story, but through the experiences of other families mourning the loss of a child, stepchild, sibling, friend or relative to suicide. A heartbreaking, but enlightening glimpse into the shattered world of those left behind following the death of child to suicide.

An experienced writer and public campaigner on divorce and relationship issues in the media limelight, Angel La Liberte was a regular ‘guest expert’ handling live phone-ins on over 200 television and talk shows—including BBC and ITV news and breakfast programs—and leading newspaper and magazine features, in the UK through-out the 1990’s.



BBC Radio Wiltshire, The Mark O'Donnell Show, 22 October 2009


All About Society:  Book About Child Suicide Has Huge Impact, November 2009


Suicide Prevention News and Comment


An Interview with Jan Andersen at Little Safe One


An Interview with Jan Andersen on London Bangla TV
£1 from every hard copy of the book sold is being donated to Kidscape, the UK charity committed to keeping children safe from
bullying and abuse.
Image ©Jan Andersen 2013, Norway
Sunday Telegraph Stella Magazine Feature, 10 November 2013